Not settling for less.
They say as you get older, you get wiser. That might not be applicable to everyone, but I most definitely have matured over the years😉. At least, I can say boldly that life have dealt with me and have taught me lots. I speak from experience and not from some literature I read, If there's anything I have learnt in life, I have learnt that settling for less will not give you a good life, better say, lowering your standards for people will not make them love you or value you better. Trust me, been there, done that, didn't really like the tee shirt that came with it😘.
Am not sure where people got the notion that settling for less makes you a better person or that settling for less makes you a more virtuous person, or even settling for less portrays you as meek and peaceful, it does not work that way and it will never work that way. Trust me, it does you no good.
Listen, let me tell you what settling for less gets you in life - Low self esteem, lack of self confidence, self doubt, imposter syndrome, abuse, depression, anxiety, I mean I can go on and on, but I guess I have made my point and my point is, settling for less is never good for you.
In life, I have learnt to set my standards high, be it work. I work hard and always put in my best, I will go above my expectations because I do not want to disappoint me. In life now, am not worried about who feels disappointed about my actions, am more focused on not disappointing me.
Be it in dealing with people, I set my standards high, I know how I want to be treated cause I treat myself that way, if for any reason you cant keep up or match my energy, please don't expect me to drop my standards, not a chance. Set your standards high and everyone around you will learn to adjust to it. Before you can speak of setting high standards, ask yourself this question - How well do I treat myself ? How well do I love myself ? I always say it, you cant give what you don't have. You cant be harsh to yourself and expect others to treat you with regards. You cant be that person that has no respect for themselves and expect the world to respect you, no sweetheart, life does not work that way. You need to first learn how to value yourself, know your self worth prior to having any thoughts of setting standards. When you are aware of yourself wholly, you will realise that settling for less is never an option. So, if for any reason you don't love you or value yourself, am here to encourage you to know that you are so worth it. Dust up yourself and learn to walk with your head held high. Do you know that there's only one of you on this planet ? I mean, that have got to make you feel unique about yourself.
You are one of a kind, a limited edition of yourself, tell me, why do you want to settle for less when you can get the best?
No matter what you are going through, be your best and always aim for the best. Stand tall and let everyone else step up and see things from your view point. That does not make you arrogant, it simply means you love yourself enough to understand that you are valuable.
Sending you lots of love and hugs.
Catch you on the next blog