Not Guilty

Stop feeling guilty about taking that decision to walk away from an abusive marriage or relationship. Stop feeling guilty for deciding to stand up for yourself and say enough is enough. Stop feeling guilty for setting up boundaries to protect yourself. If you have found yourself in situations where you have had to make decisions that are not crowd pleasing to save your life, please stop.

In a world where some people struggle to respect boundaries and then turn around to blame you for taking action to protect yourself, it is hard to keep your sanity. One thing I can tell you for sure is, if you do not do something while you still have the time to, it just might be too late for you.

Imagine being in a relationship or marriage where you suffered all sorts of abuse and when you finally pick up the courage to speak out or seek for help, the world around you blames you and try to make you feel guilty, my dear, you are not guilty.

Working for a boss who constantly undermines you, use you at will and make you feel as though you are incompetent, then you pull up the strength to leave that job for something better and they want to make you feel guilty ? You are not guilty.

Speaking out about an unfair treatment you received, and the person turns around to tell you that you are ungrateful or arrogant, I want to tell you that you are not guilty.

I have come to discover that in life, whenever you want to make a change that will better your life, the people that are benefitting from your pain and struggles will be the first to say that you are an ingrate and blame you for been unreasonable. Do you know what, it is high time you make a move and stop subjecting yourself to situations and conditions that are detrimental to both your mental and physical health. If you are questioning yourself about a situation you are in, you probably need a change, rather than feeling guilty for making a decision that will aid you in life, I want you to give yourself a pat on the shoulder for being strong for yourself and doing what's right for you.

Sending you lots of hugs and love.

Catch you on the next blog.

@queenonis.