Dealing with negative thoughts
Negative thoughts are just very difficult to deal with to be honest. I started experiencing this feelings more and more recently following some unplanned events that happened in my life, trust me, the struggle is real with these thoughts.
They have a way of just flashing through your mind without any invitation. They are like those people that turn up at an event uninvited and just makes the rest of the invited guests feel really uncomfortable.
Negative thoughts can be some thoughts that make you develop low self esteem, makes you feel worthless, the thoughts that tells you that your future is blink, the thought that keeps popping up in your mind to make you feel that you're unworthy, undeserving, unloved, that thought that makes you feel like you're guilty about a particular decision you took even though that decision was in your best interest, the feeling of uncertainty etc. These thoughts can be anything but the truth of it is - they are negative and they weigh you down.
I struggled with them a lot and it does not help when people are so judgemental around you. If you are in the same situation, you are not alone.
When I realised that these thoughts were affecting my life in ways I was not pleased with, I knew immediately I had to do something fast before they consume me.
First thing I did was what I now call - Replacement thoughts. When one negative thought pops up in my head, I made a conscious effort to replace that one thought with several positive ones. It was not easy at first, but practice makes room for improvement. With time, I got better at shutting those thoughts down. I would sometimes say loudly to myself, Am blessed and favoured. I would tell myself, Queen you've got this, you're smashing this, you're are simply the best. I did this for the period I was struggling the most until it became part of me. Do I still break down ? of course I do but I now have better control and am well placed when it comes to handling these thoughts. The key is, never entertain them, they are not welcomed in your mind. As soon as these thoughts comes up, shut them down.
Next thing, learn to love yourself unconditionally, be kind to you. The things that happened to you negatively do not have to define the rest of your life. You deserve the best in this life. Never allow these thoughts make you settle for less. You're well able to manage and control these thoughts.
Finally, you can do all things through Christ who strengthens you. You've got this😉.
Sending you lots of love and hugs.
Catch you on the next blog.