Masturbation-A harmless act ?
I know a lot of people always wonder if masturbation is harmful ? can it affect my relationship ? can it be addictive etc. Well the honest truth is this, masturbation can affect your relationship, it can affect the intimacy between you and your spouse, it causes withdrawal, destroys the purpose of marriage, it is a stronghold on any man / woman, it can lead to pornography and if not put under check on time can become very addictive.
A bit of background check, in the beginning, God created man and woman to be together, to enjoy sex - Genesis 4:1 1 Adam made love to his wife Eve, and she became pregnant and gave birth to Cain. She said, "With the help of the LORD I have brought forth a man." Sex in marriage is to be pleasurable, meaning that the husband derives pleasure from the wife and vice versa. A Husband or wife is not meant to derive sexual pleasure from themselves. So, if you as a husband or a wife is deriving pleasure from some other means rather than your spouse, then that's a red flag that needs to be checked.
I hear people argue about this subject, some will say, where is it in the bible ? how does it hurt anyone ? Well, today's write up is not about been politically correct, this write up is for us to address the Why, When and How with regards to masturbation.
If you are struggling with this, the first question to ask yourself is Why ? Why do I masturbate ? Prior to solving any problem, the key thing is to identify the root cause. If you fail to identify the root cause, then you are very far from resolving the issue. Seat yourself down and have a honest chat with yourself to identify the reason why you engage in it. Once this is done, then you can move to the next level.
Next - When. Check out times, period or seasons when you find yourself doing this. Are there places that trigger it, are there occasion, people or even situations that trigger this ? You need to be careful what you hear, see or listen to as these three senses can create a passage for a trigger. Be caution of periods that you get the urge to do this. Pray and ensure you are not alone at such times. If there are programmes, magazines, discussion with friends that act as a trigger, be disciplined to walk away from those and say no to them.
Next level is How ? How do I stop this? Self discipline is very vital in this case. Now you have identified the root cause and triggers, you need to make up your mind to stop. It is not going to be easy as it's a habit that you have developed, but remember that people break habits and that with God, all things are possible. You need to be intentional about stopping.
Also be conscious of what information that you feed your mind. If you are feeding your mind unhealthy thoughts, then it will be difficult to get out of this habit. Feed your mind things that will benefit it. Feed your mind the word of God. Occupy yourself with a hobby or a beneficial task. Be intentional about eradicating that thought from your mind.
In all, trust God, have self discipline and be determined to stop. Never be ashamed to speak to someone you trust about it, remember that the power of sin is in it's secrecy. As long as you can hide it, you'll continue to indulge in it.